It was lately pointed out that my long term girlfriend, Kelly, seems to have become co-dependent upon me. And I don’t mean that the lady is needy and consequently simply desires to spend a whole lot of time with me, I mean the lady has got to actually do every little thing with me personally or she won’t actually do anything. I mean that the lady goes out of her way to be able to “care for me” even if I don’t have to have this and it hurts her as well as complicates her life. She has an actual disorder, co-dependency is actually a genuine thing. I imagine people who are co-dependent are generally men and women who suffer from an unsafe love regarding some other man or woman and also show that love in bad ways. I usually just applied that as the joking term for clingy, little would I realize I might experience the genuine thing.
Her co-dependency was first pointed out to me personally by a few of my guy friends, such as my very best friend Shane, but I blew these people off. I figured their merely dudes that are bored and also envious that i actually have a sweetheart that loves me as much as this lady does. Then her friends pointed that out which I considered was actually a bit odd, they were easily worried about her. But again, I shrugged it off. Then her mother and father and my parents said to me that they believed there was something more than merely extreme clinginess going on. That’s when I came to the realization that there a difficult problem.
We proceeded to go to a professional that is a professional in human relationships and marriage. It was there that these people revealed to us that Kelly was in deed co-dependent. She is in love with me to an unsafe extreme. She won’t go to the grocery store or actually eat a real meal without me. She won’t see her close friends or family members without me. She won’t function properly without me. Furthermore, she leaves work in order to bake me treats or something and deliver them to my own work. And even though she could get in trouble for it and consequently is always skating on thin ice at her work, she nonetheless does this merely because she really feels she has to take care of me.
This has to change in the event that the lady is to get well balanced and if we are too last, and currently the simple fact is, it is truly not probable that we should last, which particularly sucks. The counselor wants her to continue coming back for therapy. Her parents wish for her to go to Co-dependency Anonymous. This throws me off. What is co-dependency anonymous? There can’t really be a co-dependency anonymous the same as there is actually an alcoholic’s anonymous. It’s not that awful of a problem. And exactly what might this require and also exactly how might that help? Seriously, just what is co-dependency anonymous?